We
I was thinking … to which extent we can talk about We in our world today? Opposing the spread of segregation between all forms of working together the answer lies within our self definition of the word.
We - used as the subject of a verb to refer to a group including the speaker and at least one other person:
We live in a world where more and more the individual is celebrated as a single entity of success with his journey determined by the sole detachment from everyone and doing “his thing“. While the individual growth is not to be undermined, a need to take a step back and reflect, is required. There is nothing possible in this world without the intervention of We in the mix. Experiences can be positive, like a role model, a good advice or a chance given at some moment in time but also negative like the lack of support, damaging and toxic people along the way or simply someone who did his best stopping you in reaching your true potential. Regardless of the option life presented you with, without having at least one sparing partner, you wouldn’t have got the point in life where you are today.
With the introduction of the cult of Me a few decades ago, we have experienced a decline in the way we see each other and how we react to the person near us. Through the economic driven picture, where “making it“ meant doing everything for your own gains, our world view was changed. Seeing yourself as the alone responsible for your well being or getting to a high financial point, you start failing into seeing that you dettach yourself from how the world truly works. Instead of seeing the We in all things, you move to the I and slowly go on the loneliness slope, where unfortunately many of us are now. You no longer see, your neighbour as friendly but hostile, teacher of your children as partner in the education and growth of your young ones but enemy with his/her own agenda, your coworkers not as willing to join forces in a project but as trying to actively sabotage you. What a deformed way of living your life … Maybe it will come as a shock for some, but people are good at their core. We all want the same things, each having it’s own path in getting them. If someone contradicts you at work, don’t take it personal; it does not automatically mean hostility but a different point of view to the same problem you both face. You never know how that different point of view will bring you one step closer to the wanted solution.
We, starting from the +1 required by definition and finishing to all of us as a species, find ourselves fighting to solve the dilemma how much Me should it be placed into We. Hard question to answer … how about, as much as you are capable of? You should celebrate yourself as an individual but also be happy of the collective you are being part of. Find the We which best suits you and thrive in everything you do. Don’t isolate yourself, thinking the world is against you, but find the +1 (or more) which will help you unpack your amazing potential. Talk to your friends, share your pains with your wife, discuss openly with your colleagues about the things that are important to you and accept constructive feedback from all. Remember, most people are glad to help you in any way as the same applies to you.
Starting from the small We like family, close friends and work colleagues what could stop us into dreaming and expanding the beautiful experiences gathered from those interactions, to a bigger We. A We that has a common goal in sight and help each other reaching it. A We that will solve our biggest problems which we face now because a mutual understanding will be there about the simple fact : We are all in this together. Reaching that point now sounds out of our reach, but with Her help, there is nothing we cannot do. So why wait for tomorrow in being the change the world needs today?
Until next time, with all my love,
Scrob-Nica Septimiu-Iulian / Iisus / Timi / Reza (Name is irelevant ;) )